So I'm taking a fiction writing course this semester and realized that I could actually write what I do in there on my poor, neglected blog. Good thing social services hasn't found me.
Anyways, the first prompt of the semester was that we were to write about our opposite selves. Who we would be if we were completely opposite of how we actually are. So here's what I wrote (and I know it's terrible):
My opposite self would be more outgoing and extroverted while also being the life of the party. I would be inclined to go to social events and would socialize with many people. I would also be egotistical and want to take credit for my achievements and would not be satisfied with allowing these achievements to go unnoticed by others. My opposite self would be confident in every situation and would be optimistic that everything turns out for the best and everything happens for a reason.
I found it interesting while I was listening to everyone say what they wrote. I listened for what each person decided to focus on about themselves that would be majorly different then who they are. Some people focused on how different they would look, some on how they would feel, and some on how they would act. Just made me think about what that says about each person based on what they wrote.
1/10/12
12/22/11
It bothers me probably more than it should when somebody just is incapable of understanding something I try to tell them. I really love and even enjoy trying to help people and make them realize things about themselves, but it gets really frustrating when I'm trying to help and they just don't get it. No matter how many ways I say something they just don't understand. Maybe this goes with the whole "you can't help someone unless they're willing to help themselves" which I know is true, but it's so annoying sometimes. I can think of so many ways to variate how I try to get across the same idea that it's crazy, but it just seems like when you've tried so many times like it's impossible.
The thing is, I don't want to give up on someone like this. I want to try as hard as I can to help them understand what I am trying to tell them. And even if they say they understand, it's still possible that they don't. But also if they do get it, they still might not act on it. I get that they may not want to, but I only tell people things when they need to hear it and I wish they knew that. But what happens when it just seems impossible?
One of the reasons I would love to be a therapist is because I like helping people. I like telling them my opinion on their options or just helping them understand themselves better than they did before. To me, to most important person to know in life is yourself. Some people don't take the time to think about how they may appear to other people (not in the physical aspect), or why it is certain things happen and it could just be because of who they are. There are also the type of people who automatically think something happened because of them and this type is just as bad. There are those who automatically blame themselves and those who blame others. For any kind of person, it may be hard to tell them something you think they should know, and sometimes when you get the courage to do it they hear you but don't really know what you said.
No matter how much you might want to help someone, a lot of times it really is impossible for you to directly impact the situation even if you may desire to do so. As a friend when you offer to be there for someone you have to know that your job isn't to solve your friend's problems; it's just to guide them in the right direction so they can figure it out themselves. From time to time you have to admit you can't help or even offer any advice but in those situations what you can do is show your friend that you're there for them and that in itself can help more than you may understand.
(P.s. I'll come up with a title for this later)
The thing is, I don't want to give up on someone like this. I want to try as hard as I can to help them understand what I am trying to tell them. And even if they say they understand, it's still possible that they don't. But also if they do get it, they still might not act on it. I get that they may not want to, but I only tell people things when they need to hear it and I wish they knew that. But what happens when it just seems impossible?
One of the reasons I would love to be a therapist is because I like helping people. I like telling them my opinion on their options or just helping them understand themselves better than they did before. To me, to most important person to know in life is yourself. Some people don't take the time to think about how they may appear to other people (not in the physical aspect), or why it is certain things happen and it could just be because of who they are. There are also the type of people who automatically think something happened because of them and this type is just as bad. There are those who automatically blame themselves and those who blame others. For any kind of person, it may be hard to tell them something you think they should know, and sometimes when you get the courage to do it they hear you but don't really know what you said.
No matter how much you might want to help someone, a lot of times it really is impossible for you to directly impact the situation even if you may desire to do so. As a friend when you offer to be there for someone you have to know that your job isn't to solve your friend's problems; it's just to guide them in the right direction so they can figure it out themselves. From time to time you have to admit you can't help or even offer any advice but in those situations what you can do is show your friend that you're there for them and that in itself can help more than you may understand.
(P.s. I'll come up with a title for this later)
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