One thing that really bothers me is when people complain that nobody likes them. Instead of complaining about it all the time to people who can't make others like you, why don't you just try and do something about it yourself?
Face the reality here, it's not possible for every single person you meet to hate you. Unless you're a criminal or something but hey even then you can find some criminal friends (if that makes you feel better). This is the main reason I get angry/annoyed when people just assume other people won't like them just because they exist or something. If you go in with that attitude, the other person will pick up on it.
For so long I tried to get people's approval of me and what for? I quickly realized they weren't even really people I wanted to hang out with anyways. If someone can't accept me for who I am and how I act then the friendship just won't work. You can try as much as possible to force it to work for as long as you can but in the end it'll just crumble apart.
This is not to say I like the people who have the "this is me so deal with it" attitude. Sometimes we really do have flaws that we need to sort out for ourselves and if we don't recognize it even after people have told us about it, then it'll never go away. It might hurt to hear certain things from friends, but if they really are your friend you should take their criticism and really think about it and if it's valid. The only person who can change you is yourself.
The big thing here I wanted to rant about is how people say "forever alone" all the time and just assume they will never find what they are looking for. There is the possibility that you won't find it, but in the end people can end up having something even better that they didn't even know they wanted in the first place. This is especially so when they aren't really "alone". I know the definition of "forever alone" is supposed to be about having a girlfriend/boyfriend but I can guarantee that 95% or so of the people who constantly say this have people who care about them. It bothers me because they just don't realize the support system they already have and just want more. It makes it seem like the people you currently have just aren't good enough for you.
Just because you might not have a boyfriend/girlfriend it doesn't mean your life is nothing and you should complain about it to the people you already have. Unless your goal is to chase those people away so you truly can use the phrase "forever alone" and mean it.
7/11/12
6/29/12
Le Ramble
This is a weird post because I'm starting it out about absolutely nothing but my mind has been like a mosquito on steroids flying around like crazy so it'll go somewhere I'm sure (or I hope).
Let's start with how I was talking to my dad today for a little bit (a little bit being like 10 minutes which is a lot for us actually) about how my brother blames his teachers for why he hasn't been doing too well in school. I'm not going to bother ranting about how annoying I find blaming others for your flaws is because I could talk about that alone for hours. Part of becoming a better person is taking things into your own hands and doing something about it yourself instead of just taking a passive role by saying it's someone else's fault for your shortcomings. And that's all I'll say.
When we were talking he kept telling me stories I've heard like five times from him and he thinks I always forget them. I know I forget a lot of things but I still don't like when people assume I just don't remember and they make fun of me for it; it's not like it's my fault my brain doesn't work too well in that department. Anyways, while he was telling me a story I'd already heard multiple times, I was thinking about how I wanted to tell him I remembered that story but then I didn't want to seem rude so I just listened to it again.
You know how when you're far away from a situation you think you'll do one thing but then as you get closer and closer to it you start doubting yourself more and more? I'm sure there's a name for that phenomenon but sadly I don't know it (even after searching around on Google for a little while). Yeah that thing happens to me all the time like I tell myself all the time, "Next time I talk to that person I'll tell them [insert thing here]" or "Next time I go to that class I'll finally talk to the person I sit next to". I go through all of this internal prep work to get ready for this situation but as it looms closer I back down from it and then it never even happens.
My dad was talking about how he likes to make his feelings clear to people and not hide them and I'm the opposite of that. I really wish I could be straightforward about that stuff but for whatever reason I just can't. I don't even think I can blame it on a trust issue type thing. I think it's just that I really hate talking about myself. Fun fact, when you first meet someone (and this is in general), if you let them talk about themselves a lot there's a higher chance that they will like you than if you just talk about random things. So basically people like when they can talk about their life.
I know how important it is for people to know what they mean to you and one of my favorite actresses says, “Don't wait until it's too late to say I love you.” I don't know why it is I just have a hard time telling people how much they mean to me. Maybe it's because I assume they just know it, which is not true. If you haven't voiced it they can't be sure. When you can tell someone you love them and you miss them and you feel emotions rushing through you, you know you really do mean it. Even if your feelings aren't reciprocated, it is definitely a good thing for people to know how you feel about them. And I do feel this way but every day I struggle to put into words all the things I want to say to people. It is getting better though.
So that was an interesting place I got to there. So this is my current mind spilled out to this page nobody looks at. K thx bye.
Let's start with how I was talking to my dad today for a little bit (a little bit being like 10 minutes which is a lot for us actually) about how my brother blames his teachers for why he hasn't been doing too well in school. I'm not going to bother ranting about how annoying I find blaming others for your flaws is because I could talk about that alone for hours. Part of becoming a better person is taking things into your own hands and doing something about it yourself instead of just taking a passive role by saying it's someone else's fault for your shortcomings. And that's all I'll say.
When we were talking he kept telling me stories I've heard like five times from him and he thinks I always forget them. I know I forget a lot of things but I still don't like when people assume I just don't remember and they make fun of me for it; it's not like it's my fault my brain doesn't work too well in that department. Anyways, while he was telling me a story I'd already heard multiple times, I was thinking about how I wanted to tell him I remembered that story but then I didn't want to seem rude so I just listened to it again.
You know how when you're far away from a situation you think you'll do one thing but then as you get closer and closer to it you start doubting yourself more and more? I'm sure there's a name for that phenomenon but sadly I don't know it (even after searching around on Google for a little while). Yeah that thing happens to me all the time like I tell myself all the time, "Next time I talk to that person I'll tell them [insert thing here]" or "Next time I go to that class I'll finally talk to the person I sit next to". I go through all of this internal prep work to get ready for this situation but as it looms closer I back down from it and then it never even happens.
My dad was talking about how he likes to make his feelings clear to people and not hide them and I'm the opposite of that. I really wish I could be straightforward about that stuff but for whatever reason I just can't. I don't even think I can blame it on a trust issue type thing. I think it's just that I really hate talking about myself. Fun fact, when you first meet someone (and this is in general), if you let them talk about themselves a lot there's a higher chance that they will like you than if you just talk about random things. So basically people like when they can talk about their life.
I know how important it is for people to know what they mean to you and one of my favorite actresses says, “Don't wait until it's too late to say I love you.” I don't know why it is I just have a hard time telling people how much they mean to me. Maybe it's because I assume they just know it, which is not true. If you haven't voiced it they can't be sure. When you can tell someone you love them and you miss them and you feel emotions rushing through you, you know you really do mean it. Even if your feelings aren't reciprocated, it is definitely a good thing for people to know how you feel about them. And I do feel this way but every day I struggle to put into words all the things I want to say to people. It is getting better though.
So that was an interesting place I got to there. So this is my current mind spilled out to this page nobody looks at. K thx bye.
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