In a recent (well it was recent when I started this as a draft) episode of 30 Rock that I was watching, Liz was dating a cute doctor (I forget his name) and the topic of the episode was this sort of "bubble" around people who look good. When they went to get dinner, no matter how long the wait line, he would go up to the waitress and ask for the next table and they would give it to him. Liz played tennis against him and he was really horrible at it, but then people started asking him for lessons. Then, Liz chokes on food (which she does a lot), and the doctor didn't even know how to do the Heimlich for her. The point was that the people in the figurative "bubble" don't realize that they're actually bad at things and everyone else just goes with the flow. I know 30 Rock makes everything dramatic, but isn't this true? People that are thought of to be "pretty" are treated differently in our society which is wrong, because there's always more than meets the eye.
It's human nature to base our views of people on what we can see, and because we can't see what's inside of people unless we have X-Ray vision, we focus just on how people look. We can't help that our first impression of someone is based on how they look. It's ironic that we get our first impression this way and you can be so very wrong about that person, although sometimes you are proven right. And when you never really talk to someone, your first impression and observations of them are all you have to judge them by. We may try to not base what we first think of someone on what we see, but we can't help it. We like to focus on aesthetics and what we can actually see.
"Reality is reality, whether you accept the bare facts or not"
What I really hate are the people who think they can do anything they want just because they're pretty. I don't think it's totally wrong to treat people differently because they're pretty. It's just unfortunate. I don't know, I think some people get lucky with good genes, but being pretty is like 80% attitude. Anyone can trick people into thinking they're pretty if they dress well, look clean, and spend a few minutes trying to look good. Then if they act like they think they're pretty, people will think they are. When people realize that they will be judged first on their looks, and they try to make themselves look good to make a good impression, it says something about them. Maybe that they're vain, or maybe just that they want to make a good impression.
ReplyDeleteYou can tell if someone tries to present themself well or if they just don't care. In my experience, pretty people are often the meanest, but they are usually more normal. Weird looking people are often the weirdest. Like creepy kid? People seem to either build their appearance around their personality or their personality around their appearance.
I am so intimidated by pretty people, and even meeting people at Miami, if I think they're a lot prettier than me, I feel like I don't deserve to talk to them. It's stupid but it's this idea that's etched on my brain that prettier means better. I loved that episode, it was hilarious.