"When you complicate, you are left behind" -Symmetry by Falling Up
Sadly this is true. When you just complicate someone's life, odds are they don't really want you to be there. People like uncomplicating people who can just be there and someone they can just have fun with. This is especially true in the beginning stages of a relationship. Most likely if you're bringing a lot of problems with you when you meet them, people won't want to deal with it. This is horrible because it's those people that need to have people around them the most. I'm not saying this is true of all people to be like this, but in general humans don't like to hang out with sad people or ones that are always complaining. I generally follow this trend too even though I agree that it's not a good one. Even though I'm someone who likes to help people with problems, I'm not so willing to deal with problems that people I hardly know have. And right when I meet someone I don't like if all they talk about is their problems and don't want to listen to you. Don't get me wrong I know people need to talk about things but once they've said their problems two billion times (literally of course) it gets annoying. But when you're close to someone and have known them for a long time and they are complicating your life, you deal with it because it's worth staying with them.
This is the same factor that plays in with the saying that you know who your true friends are because they stick with you no matter what. The best friends are the ones who stick with you "through thick and thin" yadda yadda you know the gist of it. When you have baggage (not the kind you pick up at the baggage claim in the airport), the people who stay with you are the ones that feel close to you. Normally people don't want to hear your drama unless they're close to you. We'd rather watch people on TV go through drama, that's why there are so many drama shows.
I totally need a cool sign-off, but seeing as I can't even think of post titles...
The End.
DUDE. I was literally just thinking about this a few minutes ago because I remembered this song that goes "I don't do sadness, not even a little bit, just don't need it in my life." I think about this a lot. Everyone has problems they need to talk about, but no one wants to be around someone who is perpetually miserable. There's a difference between supporting someone in a hard time and bringing the cupcakes to their pity party. And pity parties are annoying. When people bring back the same problems a billion times, no one sees them as serious problems anymore. Some people seek out drama and then complain about their problems, even though they are self-inflicted.
ReplyDeleteWhat I don't like is when people use that line "you know who your true friends are" to an extreme. They think it's their friends' jobs to pull out the bandaids every time they get hurt and give them attention when they aren't dealing with their own problems the right way themselves. Good friends support you. They don't babysit you. I hate when people forget that. Even though people with problems need the support, they can't assume it's everyone else's job to fix them. It becomes more of an obligation than a friendship, and no one wants that.
I hate pity parties so much. When people continuously bring up problems they have and don't seem to be trying to do anything about those problems, it's more like a plea for attention than anything. Good friends are the cheerleaders, not the coaches.
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