We all have things we don't like to talk about. Maybe it's because we don't want people to know about it, because it doesn't really come up, or maybe because it would be something awkward to share. I think it's bad if you hide something that's created a major part of your character from the people that think they know you best. I can't really say anything about this because I don't really have anything super important that's changed who I am or made me the way I am. If I were to find something out about someone I felt close to and they took a long time to tell me about it; I would understand, but it's still hurtful to know that they waited so long to tell you. It's not like I'm saying you should tell everyone something important right when you meet them; I mean you could but that's not usually how it goes. This is somewhat like the debate about when to tell a kid they were adopted or any situation like that. At what point do you feel someone can handle the truth?
I try my hardest not to hide things from people. If someone I trust asks me about something I'll either say that I don't feel comfortable talking about it or I will answer. My problem is just trust issues; it takes a lot to earn my trust and I'm not really sure why. It's not that I think everyone is a jerk and will get to know me, ask me about a secret I have and I answer, and then run off to tell everyone they know. Although I think that sort of thing is a kind of innate fear that most people have. If someone I don't really talk to asks me something personal it gets pretty awkward because I don't know how to tell them that I don't want to answer(not that I'm in that situation a lot). I don't tell people my problems because that's what they are: my problems, not theirs. I know people have their own things to worry about, they shouldn't have to worry about someone else's problems too.
On another note, I did manage to find dancing penguins which I hope you appreciate. If I were President I would make it a law for everyone to find time in their days to appreciate dancing penguins. It's important to a healthy lifestyle.
Those are the penguins from Mary Poppins! And they're not only dancing penguins, they're tap dancing penguins. I agree, I think everyone should take the time to appreciate them.
ReplyDeleteI think betrayal is worse than the secrets. Like if you tell someone a secret and they tell other people, it doesn't matter quite as much that the secret is out than it does that they betrayed you. Betrayal is more humiliating and demoralizing than most secrets that get spread around because you realized you were tricked into believing you could trust them.
I've noticed that being betrayed and finding out something major about a friend feel the same. In both cases, someone hid who they really are from you, and you're forced to change the way you think about them. They both hurt, and it always hurts me when I ask someone a question and they say "Don't worry about it." I always worry about it. Once I worried about it for two years. And I always think it's worse than it is.
Betrayal is one of the worst things in my book. That's pretty low and is just horrible.
ReplyDeleteIt's pretty hard when someone tells you something; you try not to change your view of them but it's almost impossible not to. I'm just avoidy when people ask me stuff because of my trust issues which I really should fix xD